5 Jun 2013

The Perfect First Date Mentality

We all know that getting dates isn’t the easiest thing to do. I actually need at least 2 numbers in order to be 100% sure that I’m going on a date with one of these lovely ladies. That being said, I understand why many dudes feel pressured when it comes to going on these dates. I’m here to change all that. I’m here to tell you that pressure is bad and is often the reason why you’re failing those dates.

Look at it this way. If you’ve managed to get her number and then managed to get her to meet you again, the hardest part is done. You’ve dealt with her friends, you’ve dealt with competition now she’s all yours. Don’t mess it up.

You might think that orchestrating another night out with your friends and hers might be a good idea but in fact that’s just plain stupid. Don’t overcomplicate things by going out in groups or with another couple and don’t go to a party on your first date either.

First dates are all about you and her, without any intrusions. Anything other than just the 2 of you will put you back in the same situation you were in when you met, competing for her attention with her friends, cockblockers, competition and the like.

Your Best Chance

The first date is your first and actual chance to capitalize on all the hard work you’ve put in to get her to meet you. Most of the time, if she agreed to go out with you, you can pretty much own it unless you’re a total douche.

I can confidently say this because I’ve had dates that were sourer than a lemon, yet I still managed to get some action at the end. I remember I got the number of some chick in less than 1 minute, randomly as I left a venue. Met her a few days later and the date was a total failure, the pauses were long, she was boring, I couldn’t entertain her but yet and the end of the date, I went in for the makeout and she agreed … 1 more date later we banged.

First dates should be sweet and simple. Don’t try to overcomplicate things by being romantic, taking her to dinner, to the park, a walk on the beach or other time wasting activities. Stick to what always works and don’t steer of course. Having drinks in a bar/café is where it’s at. If the night is getting longer change venues a maximum of one time (to another bar/café of course) and make sure everybody is doing their share of drinking.

You can have a terrible date but after both of you have been drinking, things start to get frisky, her pupils get dilated, you get the balls to make some moves, she has the balls to let you make the moves and things will quickly progress for the better.

If she agreed to go out with you then she’s obviously interested in you, if she’s had something to drink then you can know for sure that by the end of the date you’ll get at LEAST a makeout out of her.

Be A Man

Here’s another thing I want to get down. Why do some dudes refrain themselves from actually trying to make a move on the first date? Trust me when I say this, many dudes before you have tried to make a move, tried to go for the makeout or at least tried to touch her in some way. If you’re the one that doesn’t, there must be something wrong with you, at least that’s what she’ll think.

Believe me, on the first date, there’s enough pressure as it is. The last thing you want is having the chick think about your flaws instead of hers. This is exactly what you’re doing when you’re trying to be more romantic, refraining yourself from doing anything, or generally just trying dumb shit to impress her.

Know That She Wants You

If you ask a girl for your number and she gives it to you, it means you’ve made an overall good impression, enough for her to give you the number. If you ask her out and she agrees again then it clearly means that she’s 100% interested in you. The fact that she’s giving you a chance means that she wants to date guys and doesn’t mind dating you. You can get some serious action even if the chick just “wanted to go out on a date again” or has stuff to do in the morning.

Always keep the first date simple. Take her out for drinks, have those drinks, and make sure you try to kiss her. As I’ve mentioned before, if you can get a makeout session going during the first date, the chances of getting a lay that same night are dramatically increased. If you can’t get a makeout going during the date, make sure that you try to kiss her at the end, it doesn’t matter what you think.

Judge the level of passion in the kiss (makes sounds, feels you up, pulls you close, takes her time) and if things look promising, make the invitation back to your place or hers. If she’s not the frank type of chick, try to weasel your way into it. It can only work in your favor.

This is the sort of stuff I discuss on my blog and in the free eBook I give out. If you want to increase your success with women, visit http://ThePlayerGuide.com – a place where the dating mindset is thrown out the window in favor of more direct and fruitful methods of meeting and seducing women.