One Night stands are good fun. I personally like them because you take a girl from hello to sex in a couple of hours and this really makes you feel like you’ve got game. Truth is, one-night stands are great for everyone involved because it basically gives two people the opportunity to fulfill their primal urges without any drama.
Does it happen a lot?
A study in 2009 (here) revealed that only 3% of women would agree to go home with an average guy, while only 8% agreed to go home with a very attractive guy. If you’d read the actual study you would see that the dudes trying to score were actually investigators which probably had NO GAME.
A more recent study, which sounds a lot better to us bros found that 20% of women admitted to having a one night stand, while another 50% said they would be willing to. Considering that all bros are good looking and lucky at the same time, these studies basically give us at least a 1 in 5 chance of landing one of these women straight up…plus all bros got game so that should rank it up a bit and if you want to increase your chances even further, read the whole of this article.
High Chance Locations
Sure, your typical bars/clubs go here but what about something different? If you’ve seen the movie, “Wedding Crashers” then you’d probably know that weddings are another prime location for one night stands. Women tend to get overly emotional and their hormones are raging so, it’s only a matter of “Hi, I’m a guy and I’m here to get things going”.
Other good but different places would be holidays, birthday parties (go for the birthday girl) and even taking advantage of TIME as in Valentine’s day or recent calamity that threatens the world, which makes women seize the moment and sleep with some random guy.
High Chance Girls
If you go out for a one night stand, you should play the night a bit more differently than you normally do. Instead of going straight for the absolute hottest chick, try going for her “almost as attractive” friends. Considering that almost as attractive means they’re pretty damn hot, plus this also gets the really hot one very intrigued so the friend you’re after will feel even better, making your game even easier.
Alternatively you can scan the room for direct potential candidates as girls that are down for whatever are usually trying to get noticed. So, look for the ones that are obviously out to have fun, who are doing some dirty dancing, laughing loudly, keep checking out to room as maybe some guy is going to catch their eye…that sort of stuff.
Considering that you want to sleep with this girl in a couple of hours, your first impression must be pristine. So, leave the cheesy lines and lame jokes for another time. Approach her with confidence and start talking to her. It’s important to exude confidence and this will quickly get you in charge of the situation. Once in charge, make sure you do everything in your power to make her FEEL good.
This includes asking the right question and giving the appropriate comment so much so that you can connect to her at an emotional level. Make her feel that you are exactly what she wants and make her want to have it. The whole point of being in control means that eventually she’ll do what you want (go home with you)…let’s be honest, if you let her take control, she’s not going to ask you to come back to her place.
Also, honesty can save you from a lot of drama so make sure you put a subtle “I don’t really have time for relationships / I like being single” in the first 30 mins of your conversations.
When charging for the one-night stand it’s absolutely paramount to look at her body language. The problem here is that she won’t tell you what she thinks about you, so if she thinks that you suck, you won’t know it unless you read her subconscious signs. Considering that most women love the extra attention you’re giving them, you can basically LOSE a whole night trying to game someone who didn’t like you in the first place.
So, close and open towards you is good, leaning away from you and closed is bad. Also, is she looking at your face when you’re talking? Does she seem genuinely interested? That’s all good. If she’s checking out her phone or looking around the room that’s bad. Reading the right sings can make the difference between getting laid or wanking off. Don’t waste time with chicks that aren’t down for it.
Taking it to the next level
Ok, if things are looking good it’s time to start making some serious moves. Move closer to her, start touching her and eventually lean in for the kiss. Don’t go all the way, make her work for that little bit extra. Go and grind on the dance floor, start some heavy make out sessions, basically do your best to get her juices flowing.
When You Know For sure
A woman once told me that you should never ask the girl to go straight from the club (wherever you are) to the sex location but instead you should ask to go to a more quite place (a dark bar/lounge) before. This is probably one of the best pieces of advice I ever got on this subject because it brings her one step closer to going home together while providing that little comfort zone which makes her feel more in control. From there, it’s only a matter of time (a lot of touching and making out) until you eventually get to the sex location.
Ideally you should NEVER go to your place. This creates all sort of complications especially if you didn’t tell her what you want. Plus, who wants a sleeper that doesn’t want to leave even if it’s 2PM the next day? Also, her place will make her feel much more comfortable allowing you to actually have a good time.
Start things the moment you enter through the door. This is what you came for so there’s no point in wasting time. No need to talk about useless stuff, just tell her how sexy she is and how much she’s turning you on.
When time for business comes, use a condom (obviously) and do everything in your power to please the woman before you bust your nut. Why? Well, if she likes it enough this can easily turn into a f**k buddy relationship. What guy doesn’t want that?
Also, I’d try to keep the sex to NORMAL, meaning no kinky stuff (anal, spaking, punching, w.e is in your twisted head) unless she specifically asks for it.
You can play this in a number of ways but ideally you should just tell her that you had a great time and bust out. Now, if she somehow gives you her number/ adds on facebook / email w.e you can play this even better. Don’t say you’re going to call her, if she asks you to call her say “That could be fun” but never agree to anything. If you want a chance at a f**k buddy relationship or even the odd booty call send her a message/text/email the next day saying that you had an amazing time and that she should feel free to contact you if she wants to do it again.
This way you put the whole thing on her, you’ve got no more obligations and if more sex is to come from it, I don’t think you’re going to hate it.
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