Online dating should never be considered anything but secondary means of acquiring a few easy lays. If you find yourself spending more than an hour a day on these dating sites then you have a problem and you need to go out into the real world and work on some real life seduction skills.
While I agree that internet dating has some good parts and can sometimes yield in some decent hotties, here are 10 reasons why it isn’t such a good idea and why real life dating is a much better option.
1. You’re not the only one
If you’re talking to this one girl and you fall under the assumption that you might actually have something special going on there, don’t fool yourself. Many beautiful girls get over 100 chat requests per day and it can be incredibly difficult to create some sort of intimate bond when some many options are on the table.
A surprising amount of girls are using online dating for the exact same purposes men do, to get easy lays. It’s important to understand that you’re not really special when it comes to online dating and that’s why it’s always a good plan to avoid any sort of emotional involvement until things get physical.
2. Building trust is fairly difficult
You might find yourself chatting relentlessly to one woman only to convince her to go out with you on a real date. Sadly many of these girls never actually meet guys online and you’re only going to waste copious amounts of time chasing after them. It’s also quite difficult to judge which will be a time waster and which will pay off but either way be prepared to spend time chatting well into the late hours of the night…
3. Pictures never tell the truth
I think it’s very uncommon for girls to look better in real life than in their online profile pictures, especially if their using online dating sites to meet men.
When meeting a girl that you’ve been chatting online, be prepared for her to be “different” than her picture and it would be wise to lower your expectations accordingly.
Avoid girls that only have pictures of their faces, they’re usually fat. Girls that have a lot of make-up in pictures, usually have bad skin (and you will be able to tell in real life), if a girl has broad shoulders and pointy cheekbones then chances are she also has a penis.
You will also be stunned just how many women have pictures of their younger, slimmer days… I consider this a serious insult and if you ever end up meeting someone like this, consider turning your back and going home on the spot.
Sadly one of the biggest downers of online dating is the fact that you hardly get what you pay for.
The online universe has and will always be a great place for disturbed weirdoes. Even if you think this girl is pretty normal, you could be totally wrong as she still keeps her ex’s head in a jar in the fridge. While it may be harder to spot the crazies online, if their doing any of the following think twice before going on a real date
– She talks about herself in the 3rd person
– Her profile pictures are mostly cats
– Sh3 wRi7eS LyK DiS iN Ev3Ry sentence
– Has Justin Beiber in her profile photos
5. No attraction is real until you meet them
You might find yourself having a great connection with a particular girl but in real life she could be a very obnoxious person. You can sometimes find yourself being attracted to the idea of the girl rather than the girl herself so it is best not to over commit until you actually have a real life date.
6. Lots of attention whores
Sadly dating sites are full of cockteasers. The truth is that many of the hot already have boyfriends or their insecure friends created them a profile and all they are interested is having a bunch of guys drooling over them for a massive confidence boost.
These girls actually think lowly of people that use online dating and you can normally spot them quickly by their lack of response towards you and inconsistencies in from conversations.
7. You get contacted by gay men rather than straight women
If you joined online dating sites expecting to be bombarded by a thousand requests from hot single hot women, think again because despite you setting your profile to STRAIGHT there seems to be a lot of strange homosexual men sending you friend requests.
If you’re committed to your online dating profile then brace yourself against the gay men that are going to contact you along with the occasional cock picture, we’ve all been there.
8. Uniqueness is non-existent
Considering the amount of men that are on dating sites, it’s almost impossible to appear unique. They are all nice, funny, outgoing etc so how can you stand out from the crowd?
You need some clever ways of appearing unique without ending up as weird, creepy or sleazy and when you’re doing this on the internet, it can become very frustrating.
9. MILF’s with extras
A recent study showed that internet dating is the most preferred option for young single mom’s. Having to raise a kid by themselves whilst working a full time job, there’s not much time left for dating so they often prefer to save time by putting down exactly what they prefer on their online dating profiles.
If you like MILF’s, you’re in luck but take care because most of them are on a mission and before you see what’s going on you have another guy’s kids calling you dad and a woman telling you she can’t make her mortgage.
10. Your hot e-date might be a young Nigerian man trying to scam you
Online dating scams are one of the most popular on the internet today and funny enough the majority of scammers seem to be from Nigeria. These people pose on dating sites as attractive men and women in order to lure desperate singles into sending them money.
It’s easy to spot them, if anyone is asking you to send them money before you even met them it’s pretty obvious that something dodgy must be going on. If you have a real connection with a girl but you still suspect she might be a con artist, ask her to cam with you and things should sort themselves out.
One last note, if you find yourself spending large amounts of time on online dating sites, you seriously have a problem and need to go out into the real world to meet some women.
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